A wise friend of mine once told me that every night before she falls asleep she imagines her past, all that has happened to her, physically leaving her mind. This way she acknowledges that she cannot change what has happened to her, life has been was it has been. The focus now is her future, working towards her dreams and goals that I have no doubt she will achieve.
I am an advocate for happiness but I won’t sugarcoat life. Sometimes it down right sucks. Watching your family fall apart, having friends move away, getting hurt by the one person you never imagined would or losing someone special are times when you wonder whether it will ever get better. There are two things left to do. Firstly, go and cry. Let everything that has built up inside be released in a wave of emotion. If there’s one thing worse than being sad, it’s pretending you’re not. Then, when you’re ready, pick yourself back up, dust yourself off and tell yourself that your new life starts today.
Don’t make the mistake of becoming the victim of your circumstances. That is the easy way out because it takes much less effort to be miserable than to make something of yourself. It won’t be easy standing back up but it’ll be worth it. This time you’ll be stronger because you’ve been hurt or down so there’s a fire inside of you that cannot be stopped. Things got messy for awhile but you now have the strength to tidy it up.
One of my favourite teachers once shared the quote, “stars cannot shine without darkness.” I will never forget that moment. Before I left I thanked her but I am not sure she quite understood the impact it had on me. I realised that it is the difficult times that have shaped me to do and create things I never thought possible. May you outshine all your darkness too.